Something happens to time right about when our kids begin Jr. High and High School. Instead of the days creeping by ever-so-slowly like they seemed to in the early years (remember that?!) suddenly there is a shift in the universe; In the blink of an eye, time speeds up. The days fly by. Our kids go from being merely children, to adolescence…teenagers. They grow inches while they sleep…everything changes, and adulthood? Is lurking just around the corner.
When we hit these years it is super important that we be intentional in our parenting. We no longer have the leisure of long days to hang out and naturally get to know our kids. They may no longer run to us with their questions, and one day we realize they have quit begging us to lie in bed to snuggle and talk a little more about allofthethings.
(This is all normal and healthy, but ouch, right?)
Instead it can be hard to find time to talk to our kids at all. Between school and sports and work and friends, just sitting down to a meal together can require a multi-tiered calendar system. We find ourselves exchanging text messages instead of real conversations, emoji’s for hugs, and communicating only the most important information as they go about their now-busy life.
So the days pass and the years pass and here’s what can happen: We can forget to talk to our kids about some of the really important things. We can neglect to have some of the conversations that matter the very most. We can find our kids preparing to launch, and wondering where in the world time went…
But it doesn’t have to happen like that.
With a little intentional effort, we can be sure to connect with our tweens and teens. With a little direction, we can know that we have covered the topics that will impact their life. Now, and later. Time will still fly by, to be sure, but we can have peace knowing that we communicated about some of the most important things at the most important time.
And though there are a lot of good things you can talk to your kids about, there are a few topics I think are especially valuable. Relevant. Foundational to our kids’ lives and futures. And because I think these are so important, I decided to share them in a new mini-series: A list of conversations for parents to have with their teens and tweens now. These topics might open doors of communication, and will hopefully lead to even more conversations that matter. They won’t cover everything but they are a good start.
I am writing this series for parents of both teens and tweens, so you will be able to adjust each topic to the age and maturity level of your kids. Ideally these are conversations you can have both in the early (middle school) years, and again in high school, adjusting them to fit their ages and stages as you go.
In my next post (soon!) I will share the first conversation in the series. Along with the topics themselves, I’ll give a few suggestions for how to best approach the conversations as well as any tips or tools I’ve found as I have been walking with my boys through their tween and teenage years.
I hope you stick around to catch all of the conversations! (To be sure not to miss any, subscribe to my blog and you’ll get a simple email notification each time I post. 😊 Click here –> Subscribe
And…I hope you will share this introduction with your friends so that they can get in on the series from the beginning. 🙂
Join this conversation below! Please share in the comments any specific topics/concerns/conversations that you would like me to cover in this series!
Thank you so much for being here! Your input and awesomeness is what keeps me coming back…
Links to ALL OF THE POSTS IN THE SERIES:
Talking to your kids about identity and self image
Talking to your kids about their FUTURE
Talking to your kids about how to treat the opposite sex
Talking to your kids about peer pressure