Levi and the Christmas boxes {Perspective for the Holidays}
Christmas is…Ummmm– One week away!
Though I had a lot of ideas about giveaways and advent thoughts, and filling this blog with beautiful things this season, I ended up instead with a lot of guests, and busy days, and exciting things (and then that nasty cold.) S0 I made some choices to let a few of my plans go.
This has turned out to be good for me after all, and I’ve spent some time thinking about this season and how I want to spend it. I plan to come back in a day or two to talk more about all of that.
But first, this little story just happened, and I guess it seems to lay a foundation for what I’m going to talk more about. Even if now that I go back and read it I think it is on the cheesy side, and Dave suggested it would be good in a Guidepost magazine (which–does anyone read that anymore because my grandma used to and now my mom and I still do.) I wasn’t going for cheesy here, it’s actually just a true story. 🙂
It all began with Levi and some bright and shiny boxes…
There were 16 gift boxes in all, and I found them at Costco, all nested one inside the other. I was quite excited because 16 gift boxes meant 16 less gifts that needed to be wrapped, and this was definitely a one-up from my usual gift-bag tradition.
Well when Levi, my four year-old, saw the brightly colored boxes, his eyes lit up with excitement.
Now–if I had been thinking at all, I would have just stuck the whole set under the tree with Levi’s name on it because let’s be honest–there may be no better gift for a four year-old than a huge set of boxes within boxes within boxes.
But instead, I brought those shiny boxes in the house and had one thing to say to my curious four year-old: “Don’t touch these. I’ll be using them to wrap presents later.” As if that would do anything other than intensify his determination to get his hands on those boxes.
So a few days went by and Levi began asking…”Can I play with just one box Mommy?” And eventually I started to get weak. “Ok–play with one box, but please put it back when you’re done. I need to use them!” Before long there were two and then three of the shiny boxes under the tree…or in the hallway, all over the house–stacked this way and that.
Then yesterday, while the other boys were out surfing, Levi and I stayed home so that I could get some things done. (Obvious note to self: Being home alone with Levi is not ever a time to “get things done.”) But I was on a mission to get my Christmas cards addressed, so I told Levi that I just had to print my address labels, and can he please play quietly on his own for a few minutes? I had been gone shopping all day, then I had been on my phone a few times, and I knew he wanted my attention, but I had cards that needed labels. And Christmas wouldn’t wait for me, or Levi.
After a few minutes of wrestling with Avery #5160 printer labels, my frustration grew. They were all printing wrong, and I just wasn’t in the mood for this. My mind raced between everything I needed to do–piles of laundry, dishes in the sink, and some writing assignments I needed to finish. Honestly, I was frustrated that Dave had left me with Levi, because I just wasn’t in the mood for him right then.
Soon a little angel-faced Levi snuck up next to me. He quietly said “Can I play Santa, Mommy?” Playing Santa could have meant a few things, but if I stopped to think for a second, I could have guessed that this would involve the forbidden boxes, and likely a huge mess. But I was in denial I suppose, and anyone who has had the unfortunate experience of wrestling with printer labels that are not cooperating can understand why I sighed in surrender and said “Sure Sweety. Go play Santa.”
Levi happily skipped away, and I was just glad for a few moments of peace as I heard him rummaging around, and hum and sing his latest version of Rudolph, (“and if you ever saw him-saw him–you would even say hello.” )
The final sheet of labels came out all wrong again, and I was mad. (WHY does everything go wrong when you’re in a hurry!?) I wanted so much to get to the next thing on my to-do list, but I had really not spent a good minute with Levi all day long, so I took a deep breath and turned to him and forced myself to say, “Ok, Mommy is done. I can play with you now,” something like a robot, while silently praying that I might gain some holiday perspective. And a lot more patience.
Just then, I heard my cell phone ringing. Levi looked up and smiled mischievously. I was worried. The sound of the phone came from the living room, but sounded very distant. I asked, “Where is my phone!?” just as Levi ran to the Christmas tree, and to the pile of bright and shiny boxes which I just then realized were all (all sixteen) tucked in this way and that, under the tree, and all around. As quickly as his little toddler fingers could move, he threw open each box, to reveal the truth behind his quiet game of “playing Santa.” I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry as I realized that each box was full–full of stuff from all over our house: My necklace and Dad’s socks were in one. A wooden spoon and a toothbrush in another. There were old batteries with brother’s underwear, and a dollar bill with a candle in another. We hadn’t even gotten to all of the boxes when the phone quit ringing. I had to laugh remembering that I had just seconds before prayed for perspective.
The phone began to ring again, and Levi and I, now laughing together hysterically, searched through the boxes until we came to the tiny one in the far corner, tucked under our little side table…and inside the box, just next to my lipstick, was the cell phone. And a whole bunch of perspective.
Now whether Levi was trying to communicate something by choosing to stick my cell phone in the furthest box or not, I’m not sure, but I got the message. And I gave that little guy a hug and a kiss, and at that very moment I promised myself that I would spend the next week being intentional about the holiday. Not just talking about it, but doing it.
And then I mentally chucked my to-do list, and Levi and I set to work together wrapping presents for our family members in the bright and shiny boxes…I let him choose the labels and the ribbons, and place them all under the tree.
And later I listened as he told his dad “Today Mom and I had the best time in my lifetime.”
And though I’m slow to learn, I’m glad that I still have one week before Christmas to do things a little different.
See you soon with one more post full of deep (though hopefully not cheesy) thoughts.
With Aloha,
Monica
PS My sweet parents picked up new address labels for me at Walmart today and I printed them all out tonight…After everyone had gone to bed. 😉 Yay for happy endings!
PPS For more sentimental warm fuzzies…Try this post. 😉
Christmas is so close and there’s so much to do, but when it finally actually feels like Christmas, my to-do list loses its luster and I just want to relish time won’t my family. Thanks for this reminder of how important that is!
So well said, Mia! Thanks for commenting. Mele Kalikimaka!!
Oh my. What a great post and reminder of what is really important at such a busy time. Thank you for sharing. The old saying “From the mouth of babes” seems very appropriate. Hugs!!
Love that. At the moment my youngest is obsessed with trying new magic/illusion tricks and wants to show me a new one every 5 mins. And I have to say I’m losing interest but am forcing myself to pay attention … or at least half of my attention while I type this comment on my phone!
Thank you!!! NEEDED THAT.
That’s adorable! If you ever want a break, just box him up in one of those pretty boxes and stick a whole LOT of stamps on it and send him over to the mainland. My three boys are all grown up, so I miss these four year old days! They can be so dang cute!
Monica, thank you for sharing what it means to be as a parent! I read your posts and I hear myself!! Many of the moments you describe (of course in a much different setting-New England) take place in my home too! I miss the innocence of Levi in my 14 year old and 16 year old- the years have pass by so quickly in the midst of my to-do list. Thank you for sharing!
Just finished reading this beautiful story with my two girls. Lovely to know that I’m not the only one that learns many of life’s lessons through the innocence of my children. I have tried to be very intentional about savoring every moment this season, my husband was away on international work and arrived home last week so our family is doing things a bit different this year. We waited to do everything Christmassy until he got back, but it’s been wonderful to dwell on the real reason we celebrate- the birth of Jesus and the love for our family, friends, and neighbors. God bless you and your family this Christmas and thank you for blessing ours with this blog!
Love this post and a great reminder for what is TRULY important! IM glad you had that moment! xoxoxo
Thank you for writing such a relatable story. It is so easy to dismiss our little ones for another thing we need to do, yet the time we spend engaged with them will have such a greater impact on them, and us, than any satisfaction we get from crossing something off our list. Merry Christmas Monica, you just gave your readers a precious gift!
I’m so glad you shared this story! I’ve been having a lot of frustrating moments lately with our almost-2 year old and I needed to read this to get some perspective. Our kids really do teach us valuable lessons, if we let them.
Xoxo
Love, love, love. <3 Merry Week Before Christmas, Monica! 🙂
I love cheesy <3 And because I have a 2 and a half year old boy, I have a HUGE soft spot in my heart for toddlers. I love this post!
Merry Christmas!
Loved this. The innocence and beauty of the season is shining through your little one… I experienced something very similar not long ago…it really opened my eyes as well to “what” is really important to my children. xo
Wiping away a tear ~ thanks for the much needed perspective xxxx
Hi Monica ~ I’ve been a friend of Kris Jones for over 65+ years and I saw you link on her facebook. What a wonderful and marvelous story. Isn’t that what Christmas is really all about. I love a child’s perspective, and your way with words so pulled me in. I will save you as a favorite, and be back to her “The rest of the story”.
Wanda
Wanda–That just made my day! Any friend of Aunt Kris’ is a friend of mine! Thank you for the sweet words of encouragement. I’d love to hear from you any time–I need all of the wisdom I can get. Aloha- 🙂
Perfect and so timely. I miss my 4 year old boy (mine’s now 11) but I appreciate the lovely reminder to spend my time with him intentionally. Because next year he’ll be 12, and so on. Thank you.
This is a Guideposts moment- for sure. My grandma used to pour over each edition, and then ( best of all) give them to me to read! How grown-up and important I felt. It makes me smile thinking about them.
Thanks for the perspective- I needed it!
Such a great reminder to us all!!!! Thanks for sharing!
Oh yes! Pure awesome! My favorite part is that he said, ” …. the best time in my lifetime!”
What a precious story! Love this.
Love this! Levi is such a great little teacher !