Talking about Middle Children, and offering a giveaway!
Today we continue our mini-series about birth order! I loved hearing from so many of you about your firstborn kids last week, and found so many of your comments fascinating! And now I’m so excited because today we get to talk about the birth order that kicked off this whole series on my blog so many years ago: MIDDLE CHILDREN!
I was exploring birth order back when my 2nd son was barely a teenager, and what I learned was so helpful to me that I wanted to share it with my blog readers. The response blew my mind! Not only did a lot of people share about their middle children, but over the years a lot of middle children (tweens and teens, as well as adults!) have stumbled upon the post and left comments or messages sharing about their own experience as a middle child. (you might find it interesting to read through comments in that blog post.) I love this topic so much, and I believe that, maybe more than any other birth order, it is super important for parents to be tuned into their middle kids!
My 2nd son Jonah joins me at the end of this episode to share honestly about his experience being a middle child and offering a bit of advice to the moms and middle kids who are listening.
The Birth Order Book: Why You are the Way You Are, by Kevin Lehman (enter to win a copy at the bottom of this post!)
List of what middle children need most:
1. Unconditional Love and Attention. (middles can miss out on attention as the older — and younger, kids tend to demand more attention.)
2. A listening ear. Middles often feel overlooked.
3. Standards and Expectations. (don’t let them get by with the older sibling doing all of the work.)
4. Some decent clothes. (hand-me-downs are great, but…)
5. Options. Let them choose stuff. Movies. Dinner. Having a voice makes them feel valued.
6. Help finding good friends/direction in life. Middles may gravitate to socialize outside of the family. Keep offering counsel and support. They still need you.
7. Communication. Talk about their birth order and listen to how they feel about it. This alone will make them feel affirmed and validated. 🙂
Thank you to this episode’s SPONSOR: A party to Remember, by Tim Tebow! 😀
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Leave a comment below and you’ll be entered to win a copy of Kevin Leman’s, “The Birth Order Book”. I’ll choose winner and announce next Tuesday (The 2nd of February!)
QUESTION: In a few words, how would you describe your Middle Child? Share a joy or challenge if you like! And/or…If you are a Middle (or are married to one!) do you feel like you/your spouse fits the general description of a Middle Child? What do you love/struggle with about being a Middle?
PS: CONGRATS TO JOSIE for winning a copy of The Birth Order Book from last week’s blog post comment!