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  1. This is so so good!! And your additional notes are right on.

    1. Oh thank you! I enjoyed this one so much. ๐Ÿ˜‰ XO

  2. thank you for this article this helps me a lot

  3. Mahalo Grom Mom,
    It’s getting close to those years for our 13 yr old son who is branching out in the baseball world with lots of boys from the island who are raised in very different styles. No other homeschooled for one. He’s the only one without a phone for two. And it has begun as I caught him lying about creating his own Instagram account. That really hurt. Ouch. “It’s only to talk to my teammates Mom.” He was “following nearly 200 baseball players.” Gulp. I tried to look at everything but it’s just too much. I will stay the course. I appreciate your insights. Mahalo!
    Baseball Mom in Kahalu’u

  4. I love this! Go Josiah!!

    Thank you so much Monica for putting your heart and soul into this blog, I have learned so much from you and your family!

    I hope you all have a wonderful day!

    1. Aw, thank you Chris!! That means so much. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ll make sure Josiah sees as well. Have a great day! aloha-

  5. Great post Monica! What a great example he is to those who are testing the waters and trying to drag him along. In the end, they will respect him more for standing firm.

  6. Oh Monica, what a wonderful son you and Dave have raised! I love his responses and everything you mentioned is true. People want what Josiah has, because he walks the talk!
    Penny in Massachusetts this week

    1. Thank you Penny! ๐Ÿ™‚ So sweet…And how fun you’re in Mass. now! You are a mover and a shaker! Much aloha–have a great week!

  7. Ginger Lockwood says:

    I told my boys to respond with, “Are you kidding, my mom finds out everything, and she would KILL me!” ๐Ÿ˜

  8. Great post! I’m going to read this with my kids, my daughter is entering her teens this year (turning 13 in July) and I want her to be better prepared since she goes to public school. Some of her peers have already done meth and have been arrested, and they’re only in 7th grade. Scary for sure, but I know she has a solid foundation that we’re continuing to build.

  9. This will help me a lot. thanks!

  10. Wonderful advice, thank you for sharing! I’m going to share with my two boys too.

    1. So glad, Amy! Hope it goes well and thanks for taking the time to comment. Aloha!

  11. Thanks for posting Monica, this is very similar to the situations and approach that I
    have discussed with friends in my youth group. Personally I have been faced with
    these situations as well when I was working as a junior waiter in a high class restaurant so
    I can empathise with Josiah. In particularly if I was partying this weekend or why I didn’t drink alcohol. At first I didn’t really answer the question and tried to change the subject or just stated that I didn’t want to, which isn’t really a convincing argument. It wasn’t until I was confronted by a work colleague who saw me going to my church that I actually stood up and stated why I don’t do those things and why I believe so. This post is a great reminder as well as giving me some good
    points to discuss.

    Thanks again and cheers from Australia!

    1. Awesome, Jono! Thanks so much for stopping in. I love to hear all of that! Cheers to you too, and sending aloha! ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. thank you, have just printed and will share with my two boys too. What a good and simple way of answering such question and still remain friendly but showing a super strong attitude. Which is needed in today’s life. thank you Monica, brilliant – as always.
    much love from us from Switzerland.

    1. Thank you so much Sandra…I agree, there is something strong but friendly there. So happy you might be able to pass them along! Blessings to you in Switzerland! xoxo

  13. That is very sound advice. I will definitely share with my kids.
    Thank you,

  14. Kristin Brownell says:

    Love these!!!! Thanks so much for sharing!!!! You have done a great job with your kids! God bless all of you!

    1. Thank you Kristin! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m super thankful for my kids and love to pass along nuggets when I can! ๐Ÿ™‚ Aloha, have a great weekend!

  15. Elizabeth says:

    This post is perfect timing as I prepare my son for a new school at the end of the summer! I love that the comebacks are not rude or condescending. I really havenโ€™t talked much about this with him and as much as I donโ€™t enjoy it role-playing is effective. Ha! Thanks!

    1. Thank you Elizabeth. I hope these are helpful! Or that it gives you a good conversation starter! All the best to you. Aloha

  16. These are great comebacks. However, we must realize that even adults don’t know how to respond in many situations like these and there is no one way to fight peer pressure without building up your child’s comfort with themselves and saying ‘No’ to anyone that makes them feel pressured or as an outsider because they decide not to go with the group. This takes lots of build up, asking your kid the right questions, putting them in scenarios to practice their responses. Some kids though are natural people pleasers and its hard to raise a compliant child, and then tell them to not comply.