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  1. Write your book please!

    1. awww, thank you Melissa! I keep trying to figure out of I’m going to or not…haha, That is a big encouragement. I’ll let ya know! 🙂

  2. Wow, did I need this! Not sure how I stumbled upon this post, but it’s exactly what I needed to read. I have loved your blog for a long time now, and wish you would write a book (and maybe a cookbook)…so add another person to the list of people waiting patiently for that to happen. You are amazing and inspiring. Thank you!

    1. Thank you Britney! What a sweet comment. Bless you and stick around–I’ll do my best to finish that little project (or two or three :)) XO Aloha

  3. Such a wonderful way to look at it! Really love the way you suggested running choices by your future self. In the past when I’d try to do that, it was more of a “You’re going to regret eating that pasta/cutting that workout short/etc” preemptive guilt trip, rather than “What would the healthy, lean, consistently-loving-life future-me do?” I have the feeling your approach is much more effective way to filter choices. 🙂

    Still loving this series….I truly hope you take the plunge with that e-book!

  4. I love these ideas, Monica! I have been on a fitness journey for about 8 or 9 months now! I joined the gym with my super fit and Tai Kwon Do triple black belt best friend. It didn’t take long to realize I could not compare my body to hers daily. We are not built the same but we CAN be equally as strong. We do motivate each other to go work out, but also work out individually as well. I also have her (and she has me) when we get into super “obsessed” mode and feel the guilt of missing a workout or having an ice cream!!!

    I also noticed that I have taken some of these same “life hacks” and put them into play when I want to better my marriage or be more in the moment with my kids!! I will try and imagine who I want to be or pattern my behavior after someone I admire… Fake it til you make it, if you will:)

    IT WORKS!!! After a short time, you wake up and you are actually the person you admired all along!

    Thanks for the great post!

  5. Pat Kinsman says:

    Very helpful info here Monica. I get teased because I measure certain foods. It’s a T of cream in my coffee, if I want a second cup at bible study I switch to tea since I’ve already had my T of cream for the day. If I have cereal I measure it. I know it goes back to doing Weight Watchers but it works for me. The other big motivater for me is my FitBit, I just thought I was extremely active before I started wearing it last January. Now I have actual numbers to tell me how much I have accomplished each day. Do I allow myself to have a 5,000 step day because I want to sit and watch football all day….yep. I just try to get extra steps the next day. At this point I want to maintain my weight but more importantly I want to be healthy so that I can be active! Thanks again for all your helpful hints to help how I think about food!

  6. Thanks Monica, this was sooo inspiring ~ gona start visioning “future Ali” today! Love what you’re doing xx

  7. I LOVE what I just read! I now need to go back and read the first parts as I missed those! I have been so discouraged lately. I WAS weighing “in” at 246… I am 5ft 5….. Got down to 150…. Which was a great weight for me but not really manageable…. When I was skinny I stopped obsessing as much over my weight.. Working out.. the scale…. Although I DID work out 7 days a week…

    Then, slowly but surely it crept back up… and then— OMG — there was 25 pounds! I have had another kiddo in that time as well as gone through a nasty divorce… and the weight kept coming… up and down up and down 20-30 pounds…

    Nine years later I am now at 189. I have started to exercise again (yesterday)… I am beginning to get my mindset right and get back to it… PLUS try NOT to obsess too much about it all.

    I used to think about my weight over 30 times a day I would guess… Now It’s only maybe 10… Ugg.. Working on it.

    I really appreciate what you have been writing and have so enjoyed it. I will go back now and read the other parts. I am ready to have a healthier way of thinking about all of it. I love myself and remind myself daily and thank God that I have 2 arms, 2 legs… Can walk…etc… Thank you God for me even WAKING UP!!!! So, thank YOU for you words and keep um coming! xo- Brandy

  8. Focusing on the best you for YOUR life – brilliant…I love the thought of carrying the long term, future me around in my mind. Perfect trigger when the hand reaches for too much chocolate, and then you feel undeserving of an ice cream with your kids. Keep it real and appropriate is what I am taking away, oh and a stronger long term resolve! Thank you…

  9. I appreciate the the idea of running my choices by the girl I want to become. I never thought of it that way. Your advice will help me just get started. Because I have read so many conflicting thoughts on various eating plans, I sometimes feel paralyzed, like I can’t take the next step. This advice just makes sense. Live as if I have already reached my goals and am making choices to sustain this new lifestyle. Thanks, Monica!