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  1. Just found your blog. Already I love it! I have 3 boys and a girl and 2 years ago we moved from Portland down to Ventura (South of SB) for my husband’s job…but really the Lord led us here. We sold a large house and now live in a small apartment that we rent but the peace we have from following the Lord’s will and knowing we are exactly where He wants us is unreal -and it’s home to us! We gave up a lot when we moved down here and people scratch their heads wondering why we’re happy in an apartment living the life we live but really I have to pinch myself everyday because I can’t believe life can be this good… but the reality is it’s because I serve a God that’s good!

    1. oh soooo good for you Kari!! I love it!! I’m so happy for you. 😉 You will see if you catch up on my posts that I just took my son to Westmont college and we have good friends in Ventura (who we stay with when we are there!) I love that area! My son is going to Reality Carpenteria church. Blessings to you and your sweet family! Please keep in touch. (Be sure to subscribe if you haven’t so I can keep up with you!) Aloha!

  2. We often dream of relocating to Hawaii! So many benefits: multiculturalism, weather, active life style, natural beauty, respect for elders… I could go on and on. But two things hold us back: community and cost of living. Our community here is so important to us! Our children ( and us) have so many positive relationships and really feel a sense of belonging. This includes family, colleagues, friends, neighbors, coaches… I know we could reestablish this in Hawaii, but I feel leaving would be a real loss for our family. Also, in Hawaii my husband and I would have a combined total salary equal to my mainland salary- which is by far the lower salary in our household. Couple this with the higher cost of living in the islands and tack on the necessary travel budget to maintain contact with that community I just told you about…. So, at least for now, it is not likely to happen. My 11 y/o truly plans on attending U of H and living on Oahu. So who knows, maybe a retirement option? I keep trying to tell him he doesn’t need to stick with his college of choice from when he was 6 years old, but at least for now, he is convinced 🙂
    However, Illinois weather and politics are a lot to take…

  3. We live in Colorado and have so for three years. We moved here when we had two teen boys and two elementary schooled children from Minnesota. Minnesota was becoming a place where our family was seeing the effects of the harsh weather mostly by an increased commute time for my husband (think snow and ice for half the year – construction in the other half) and constantly navigating ice with a disabled child. We always had in the back of our minds that we would like to live surrounded by mountains, so we made a change. It has for the most part been a very good change although there are things we would change if we could. I find contentment by being thankful. Our home in Minnesota was a place where I learned to be thankful for what we had. Honestly, it surprises us we stayed there so long, but we were content. I’m so thankful for the weather and sunshine in our new location that I can forget about the negatives. Like you, we live in a place where people come to vacation. As far as we know, we’re here to stay. It’s never going to be perfect, but I don’t expect that in this world anyway.

  4. Hello
    I love this post! Two things came to mind when I read it. First, Every time I read your posts, i think of how much I adore the beach and would move there in a heart beat! It’s so beautiful and I’m glad you’re blessed with that beauty. The second thing is I spoke to my boys just in the past two weeks about possibly moving and the response was “no way!” There is such a special bond with the home you grew up in. Thank you for your insight and kind words.

  5. Erica Gustafsson says:

    Great post! I live in Truckee, CA (near Lake Tahoe) with my 3 boys. It’s unbelievably beautiful here, but we do often dream about moving, especially during our epic snowstorms! In fact, we sold our house last summer with the intention of leaving, but God had other plans for us and we just bought another home that we don’t plan to leave for a long time! We are trusting God has us here for a reason, even when we can’t see it! My husband said if you’d ever like to trade homes he’d be more than happy to move to Oahu! Thanks for your blog—I look forward to it every week!

  6. Just suffice it to say, you are blessed and lucky to have those as your choices. Enjoy it, both places whenever you can. Your season Hawaii or CA and deciding where to stay or not is completely in your control. You can have it both ways, just a matter of what you want to do for it.

  7. I can’t stop thinking of the old cliche, “the grass is always greener …” ! As soon as a place becomes ‘home’, the daily monotony (I.e., chores, errands, work, school, etc.) sets in. I even remember when we started to build at our current home site and was taken away by the views and sunsets and I told myself that I must work hard to not loose the feeling I initially got. I definitely don’t take what we have for granted but in all transparency, the daily feelings are not like the initial feelings of our location (if that makes sense). I agree that having two homes is ideal and now having a vacation rental condo on Maui has scratched that itch a bit. (Which, by the way, if you ever need a place to stay over here, you are more than welcome to use! 😉 Looks like we’ll be over on the North Shore late next month. I’ll check in and see if you’re around. Xoxo

    1. You’re so right Rhonda– the grass is always greener!! 🙂 And yes, if you took me away from Hawaii no doubt I’d long for the sights, smells and feelings I have here daily. 🙂 Please do reach out when you’re here–Let’s try to have coffee this time!!
      PS SO kind of you about Maui…I think you have a couple special locations to call “home!”

  8. Yes! This! I married a New Zealander and have given birth to three of our four boys while living here ‘down under’, and every day almost struggle with the desire to be ‘back home’ in California. It used to be more about the cost factor (and Trader Joe’s!) but now I long for my boys to know my parents and sibland their cousins… but, we live a five minutes walk from the wharf, and a five minute drive from the beach, and most roads are small here, our little bill is safe and friendly, and we’re surrounded by such beauty on a daily basis that it takes my breath away. Torn! Our ideal would be dual homes as well, but being self employed that’s a distant dream. Sigh 🙂

  9. Love this, very relatable. I’m originally from Orange County then lived in Kaua‘i and later in Washington for 11 years. We recently moved back to Kaua‘i to make it our permanent home forever. As much as I love Hawaii life and know it’s the best choice for our family on top of it being our dream come true to be blessed to live here I sometimes second guess our decision. Being a California girl and enjoying everything that it entails I can’t help but miss it sometimes especially when visiting the mainland. But knowing I always have Hawaii to come home too really is the best of both worlds.

  10. We plan to soon downsize. Our second son leaves for college this fall. It will still be here in town, and still have a bedroom for each of them, but lose the extra space that we are heating and cooling and cleaning! Once we do that, we can build a little cabin on our land outside of town and spend weekends up there! Can’t wait!