Friends…Most of you know by now how I love a coffee date! I try to do these seasonally, and by the time I sit down to write them I’m about to burst with all of the thoughts, questions, and stories to share.
I can’t help but smile as I begin to type…imagining you right here, and I’m leaning in to ask: Where should we even start!? How are you? What’s new? Can you even believe it’s March already!? Aand Shhh – We’re gonna have this coffee date on the front porch of my friend Jen’s house, ok? (I actually had coffee here yesterday.) Grab your drink and pull up a chair…I think you’ll like the view and I’m pretty sure Jen won’t mind…
(dreamy, right? )
Next I’d ask you how’s your winter been? Cold? Snowy? Do yo love it or hate it? 🙂
And then I’d tell you (though you won’t feel the least bit sorry for me) that it’s been darned-cold here in Hawaii this winter. Like, Ugg boots and hoodies in-the-house cold. (I’d remind you that we don’t have heaters here so don’t be judging.)
Finally I’d dive into my updates, reminding you that YOU get to click on comments at the bottom and tell me something from your end! (I’ll send a Starbucks card to one commenter next week. Which I know isn’t exactly Jen’s front porch, but it’s something!)
Here’s my news in no particular order:
If you’re on social media you might have seen…
- I had Frozen Shoulder and what even is that!?
(If this is not interesting to you, feel free to skip this bullet point entirely. no hard feelings. 😉 )
My new public service announcement: Frozen shoulder is no joke. Seriously guys, I feel like we’ve all heard of it, but who really knew what Frozen Shoulder was? (not me) Well now I know so now you must know as well…
Frozen shoulder (“Adhesive Capsulitis”) I have learned…is a condition that causes the capsule around your entire shoulder joint to tighten up (basically like scar tissue) making your shoulder very tight and painful. The cause of frozen shoulder is a bit of a medical mystery; it seems to have a genetic component (my dad had it at my age too,) however it is more common in women than men (and it’s also more common in Asians.) It almost always hits between the ages of 40 and 60. Oh, and this fact I’m hoping to disprove: If you get it in one shoulder, you are likely to get it in the other shoulder within a year or two. (what!??)
Well, I started having symptoms last June, but it wasn’t until the new year that I finally saw an orthopedic doctor who diagnosed it quickly and gave me a few treatment options…
We started with Physical Therapy and stretching at home, but that is a slow and painful process. There was not much progress (and did I mention it was painful?) so the doctor recommended I go with “MUA “manipulation under anesthesia. With MUA they numb up your arm (and give you happy meds in an IV), then the doctor
cranks moves your arm in every direction to break up the tight capsule. You can actually hear it snap-crackle-and pop, which would be quite disconcerting if it weren’t for the “happy meds”. 2 minutes later, you’re done. Still numb, and happy, but the capsule is all released. Amazing!
I’m so glad I did it! I have more PT and lots of stretching ahead of me, but I’m happy to say that I can once again stand in the “Mom position” (hands on hips), and I can almost reach an itch on my back again. (important.) I highly recommend MUA for Frozen Shoulder and the end.
Enough about that, let’s move on…
I’ve been speaking to Moms and loving it…(especially when they live on Maui.)
Recently I’ve had the chance to speak to a few groups of moms, sharing nuggets from the chapters of my Boy Mom book. It’s been such a blast! Last week I was able to take a quick trip to Maui and spoke to moms from Hope Chapel Kihei. Oh my heart, I loved every one of them and I just hope they invite me back. Like tomorrow.
And, about that PODCAST…
At some point in our coffee date, (being the good friend that you are,) you might remind me that I announced that I’d be starting a podcast, and you wonder — was I joking or is it actually gonna happen? To which I’d say: Friend: What was I even thinking!? haha! But yes. I’m truly getting closer and closer and I’m pretty sure it will become a real thing. My equipment is all set up and it looks very cool. (which matters for something, right?) So, hopefully by late spring I’ll be kicking off…
“The Boy Mom Podcast with Monica Swanson” Woot woot!
I have some ideas for the first few episodes, but I’d definitely appreciate your thoughts for the future: Do you like interview shows? Short and sweet, or longer/deeper shows? Any particular boy-related topic you’d like me to cover? Share in comments please!
THEN I’d say: Hey, friend! Would you come if I hosted a retreat in Hawaii?
(Hopefully you’d squeal and say: “YES! I totally would!” )
I’ve been dreaming of this for years, but somehow in this new year I’ve felt like it’s getting closer to being a reality. I don’t know the specifics, but let’s just imagine together: renting a big home and inviting 10-20 women to join me for an extended weekend of encouraging talks, eating amazing, locally sourced food, beach walks….and maybe a massage or a surf lesson tucked in there…then plenty of time to just reflect and rest and soak in some sun and sand and quiet. So….
WHO’S interested? LMK in comments!
I’d love for you to at least start dreaming with me…praying…planning (maybe saving!? ) I’m already looking into locations and caterers and all the rest, so if enough of you are interested, I should be able to crunch some numbers and share more down the road. But just so you know: THIS MAKES ME SO EXCITED!!
Of course our coffee date would include a speed-round of catch-up on all of the other things…Our kids and our husbands and our parents…our need for a housecleaner and our pelvic floor issues (coffee dates are not a time to be shy…) I’d have to mention how proud I am of Jonah, who will be graduating in May! (he’s planning a gap year so I won’t be getting sad yet ;)) and Luke…
WAIT! What was that on social media about Luke’s surfing? That’s when I’d say it’s a really great story and I cannot WAIT to tell you about it, but we are out of time so we MUST plan another coffee date soon. I’ll try to put together a brief update (complete with video for your kids to watch :)) soon. I honestly think his story will encourage all of us.
We always have to exchange what we’ve been reading, so here’s what I’d tell you:
- A Lent study by Jennie Allen: Made for This: 40 Days to Living Your Purpose
- Your Future Self Will Thank You: Secrets to Self-Control from the Bible and Brain Science (A Guide for Sinners, Quitters, and Procrastinators) SO GOOD!! Author Drew Dyck is an incredible writer and a funny guy (he is seriously one fo the main reasons I still drop into Twitter…) This book is insightful, convicting in a good way, and inspiring!
- Memory-Making Mom: Building Traditions That Breathe Life Into Your Home: Oh what a sweet and encouraging book! It just released and I’m going to say that every Mom I know should get this!
- Introverted Mom: Your Guide to More Calm, Less Guilt, and Quiet Joy: Though I don’t call myself an introvert, I’m pretty sure we all have some “introvert qualities”! I’m a big fan of author, Jamie Martin (she writes the Simple Homeschool blog.) If you consider yourself an introvert, and you’re a mom: you need this.
- This book just came in the mail, and from first glance I can say it’s covering some important relational ground: Relational Reset: Unlearning the Habits that Hold You Back
- AND…. If you’re observing Lent (or just sick of Facebook!) I highly recommend joining my friend Wendy’s 40 Day Social Media Fast which just started. This is gonna be so good!
We’d hug and I’d make sure to remind you that though this season may be exhausting, I know you are doing a really good job. I’d tell you that God sees every little thing you do to serve your people and I know He is working things out for your good and His glory. (Galations 6:9 is on a card in my purse 🙂 )
I’d have to pull out my latest favorite from Instagram (@Joshshipp shared this) because my husband and I have laughed at this about 500 times this week and we feel like Jim is our friend. Or maybe we ARE JIM…
Then we’d step back into Jen’s living room and realize maybe we don’t want our coffee date to end so we decide to move into Jen’s house and live happily ever after.
Or so we can dream…
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Hugs and love,