As we begin this summer season, most of us have some kind of list in front of us. I would guess that most of the items on the list are either related to productivity (me anyways: cleaning out closets, writing deadlines, organizing my life, haha–good luck!) or entertaining the children in your life (summer camps, day trips, play dates…and so on.) Some of it is good fun, and some of it we do just because it’s the right thing to do. I guess that’s what adulting is all about, right? We carry the weight of everyone’s happiness on our shoulders.
But I know some of you are weighed down by more than your kids and the summer bucket list this summer. Some of you have told me: You carry a burden of extra weight that is both physical and mental. You don’t feel good about yourself physically, and it affects everything you do. Some of you live with self-condemnation…the voice in your head that speaks (shouts!) words of shame and guilt.
Yet as much as you might hate the voice and the weight — many of you have learned to live with it, because it’s just become a part of you. Your identity. You’ve normalized it.
And some of you have learned to cope with things by being on a constant diet…because at least a diet gives you some sense of control. You trick yourself into thinking you’re doing something about your problem, but if you’re honest that diet just makes you think about food even more. (And if you’re really honest: Has a diet ever permanently solved your problem? 99% of the time the answer is no.)
But what if this summer, right there in the middle of the lists and the projects and the fun with kids — you were able to stand up to the voices that live in your head? What if you found the tools to change some thought-habits, and without ever so much as saying the “D” word (don’t say it…don’t even…) you suddenly found yourself shedding pounds? Living differently. As in: Developing a new identity. One that can last a lifetime!?
I want you to know that is possible for you this summer! In fact, it is possible for you right now. Today.
I know it because that’s exactly what I did. One day, (17 years ago) when I was totally fed up with diets and obsessing over the scale, I ditched it all and chose to find a new way to think and to live. I realized it was time to develop a new identity. I quit weighing myself and studying myself in the mirror. And honestly — it was really scary. (I had dieted almost constantly since puberty!) But I was an adult…a wife and a mom…and the truth is: I wanted freedom more than anything.
I had prayed a lot and became convinced that God had freedom for me. So I put into practice 2 Corinthians 10:5 (“take every thought captive”) and Proverbs 23:7 “As a man thinks, so he is.” I loved that the basic principles of psychology I had studied in college were in alignment with the Bible! Rather than being emotional in my approach to eating and exercise, I tried to think objectively and reasonably, applying some basic physiology from my sports medicine degree and years of personal training. I chose to try to apply what actually really made sense, WHEN I CLEARED AWAY the noise of what was trending in our culture (which is almost entirely dictated by the genius marketing efforts of the diet industry — a multi-billion dollar industry, keep in mind.) I got super brave and forged a new way to approach food, exercise, and my weight. I kept pressing on and refusing to go back. It was uncomfortable for a while. But, little by little, I experienced more freedom. And I loved it! By the time I weighed in at my next doctor’s visit, I had lost weight and was at the goal weight I had been wanting for years. And I was totally FREE.
Seventeen years (and two babies) later, I’m still at the same weight.
**By the way, this is my current real life: ^^ Stretching my shoulder on every rail, beam, wall, or surface in all places all of the time. Thank you Frozen shoulder.
Well, as many of you know, I finally wrote about my story (including the step-by-step process that changed my life) in a book. I wrote it because I knew that other people struggled with the same issues I had, and no book or diet plan seemed to help me when I was searching. (I’ve heard the same thing from hundreds of people!) I self-published my book, The Secret of Your Naturally Skinny Friends. Many of you have read it (thank you!!)
Now I can’t even keep up with all of the emails and comments which tell their stories.
(Which are a lot like mine. And I’m guessing could be yours, too.) And I also keep finding Instagram stories by people I have never met who are telling their friends/followers how this little book CHANGED their lives.
Seriously friends, I don’t even know what to do with this stuff…I’m so thankful and honored. And yes, maybe one day I’ll get an expanded version published or turn it into something more (THOUGHTS?! Please comment below! :)) But for now, I think my tiny little book is enough to help ANYONE ready for change!
And now as we kick off summer, I just wonder: Who out there still needs to hear this?
It’s a short read. It’s inexpensive (how much did that last diet plan cost you?)
Most importantly: It’s life changing.
In closing: Friends, I really really want this to be a great summer for you. I hope you scratch a bunch off your project list, and that you bless the socks off your kids, too. But beyond all that: I hope you also become more of who you want to be this summer. And if there are areas you feel stuck in or changes you want to make (from losing weight to flossing your teeth– and everything in between! :)) then I sure hope you’ll give my book a try! (And if you read it in the past, perhaps another read-through is in order?)
Here’s just a few snippets from emails and amazon reviews over the past few months:
“I heard you on Jamie Ivey’s happy hour podcast a little while back. I cried in my car and I bought your book….Reading your book has helped me so much!! I feel like for the first time in my life I found someone who (had) the same struggle as me, to the TEE!”
“Finding freedom to eat/not to eat has been life changing. I keep your book in my purse! Even bought a copy for a friend. I feel like a new person in relation to food, dieting, being consumed with diet, etc. I am finding it fabulous when I just eat like a normal (skinny) person and focus on other things other than what I ate, need to eat, shouldn’t have eaten. ” -S.R. (down 35 pounds last I heard!!)
If you’re familiar with the younger generation of the Duck Dynasty Family, you might enjoy Sadie Robertson and her sis-in-law MaryKate Robertson’s YouTube video about MY BOOK which has well over 200,000 views so far.
Read all about the book at the book page, HERE.
Order the book on Amazon (kindle edition or paperback, HERE.)
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