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  1. Hi Monica!
    I’m so grateful you have taken the time to blog, write a book and start a podcast. So much useful information for all of us moms. Thank you!!
    I have a question on the money management episode. I struggle with determining which tasks should be done “for free” and which kids should get paid for. I agree there’s a place for both but when I try to determine what goes where, I tend to feel like everything should be done for free (and a good attitude ๐Ÿ˜‚) since they’re part of our family (I don’t get paid ๐Ÿ˜‰)!
    Some direction would be greatly appreciated!
    Elisa

  2. If you wouldn’t mind sharing, how much financial support do you give your oldest son? Me and my husband of course will support him (we are paying his full tuition), but we are struggling with the amount of money we give him outside of tuition.

    1. Hi Alison — good question. Most of my son’s spending money so far has been from his own savings (from restaurant work during gap year and summer/holidays.) I do try to Venmo him about $100 a month because I know how many fun things he has the chance to do and my mommy-heart doesn’t want him to miss out… ๐Ÿ™‚ But since his meal plan includes all meals I know at least he will be fed no matter what. I have no idea what is normal, but he seemed to survive his first year and didn’t miss out on too much! Feel free to share with me what you’re doing or have heard from others. I didn’t do much research on this before we started! XO

      1. All of my son’s meals are paid for too, so I will talk to my husband but I think that $100 sounds reasonable for eating out, new clothes, etc. Thanks for sharing!!

  3. My 11 month old son is starting to help with putting together his meals. When I’m cooking he has his frying pan and his spatula alongside me. He helps carry over a container of food too.

    1. Wow == that is pretty amazing!! They’re so cute when they are modeling after us. love it!! Thanks for sharing!

  4. CathleenRafalko says:

    I try to be clear on expectations in chores. We use a white board (monthly) and rotate chores …. So my 3 teens are clear on who’s day is dog care etc.

    I set up small savings accounts and have kids sign and deposit their own checks. We talk about stocks and are allowing each teen to choose a stock to follow and buy (and hopefully watch it grow)

    Thanks for the blog and may all your efforts glorify God๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ

  5. Oh my goodness, teaching my daughter she doesn’t have to spend the money as soon as she gets it! It just burns a hole in her pocket and she HAS to spend it on junk. So we’re focusing on delayed gratification and saving for her. (The other three are too little to care, yet).

    1. Haha, I totally get that!! Delayed gratification is a great thing to teach, but it does take some maturity to “get” so be patient. ๐Ÿ™‚ Keep up the great work!!

  6. I bought cleaning products that are safe for children today so they can learn to clean with me safely. ๐Ÿฅฐ Thanks for the hot tip!!!

    Erika Reiner Photography

  7. Christina says:

    My struggle is how to help my boys (younger) understand the value of money…as in this world we learn to count money in school…but in real life we use cards, phones, etc to pay for things. How to
    Bridge the gap?

  8. One thing Iโ€™ve noticed is that my kids donโ€™t see money as โ€œrealโ€ since so much of what we buy is online or paid for with the debit card. So Iโ€™m trying to use cash more often to make the relationship between the money they can earn from chores and the things we buy.

    1. That is a really good point and an interesting new issue! I’m curious what experts recommend on this issue -but sounds like you are doing the right thing! ๐Ÿ™‚