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  1. Thank you so much for this, Monica! My son has just begun his freshman year knowing only one other person at his new highschool. He had a great first week that kind of came crashing down during week two as he adjusted to the new work load. He wasn’t open to attending the first football game because he said he didn’t have anyone to hang out with. Sigh. We are hurting for him as he hangs solo—but optimistic that the next few weeks hold new friends and new social opportunities. Your post is super encouraging and so timely! I look forward to talking with him about all the silver linings as he waits. Thanks again!

    1. Thank you for commenting Tasha! I so feel you there. Glad this post was a little bit helpful. My boys spent many a Friday night at home with family, and they are none-the-worse for it! 😉 Big blessings to your family and way to be a loving and involved mom who tunes into things. It will get better!

  2. This is really hitting home… My son is newly 12, 7th grade and feels like he has no friends in his classes. The way school is set up, he doesn’t see his friends in school at all, and can’t seem to connect with the kids in his classes. Thanks for the ideas.

    1. Aw, JJ, thank you for commenting. Hang in there! It will get better, even if it takes some time. Blessings. 🙂

  3. Erin Harvey says:

    Thanks so much for sharing this information and ispiration. My son is only 6 years old now, and for the most part he is still very content to spend time with me (and I’m loving every precious minute of it). But I remember being lonely off and on as a kid, teenager, and adult, and I know that is inevitable for my son too. But he doesn’t have a father or siblings (although we are blessed with an outstanding and supportive extended family) so frankly it’s a little comforting to me to hear that your boys, even in their seemingly full home with brothers and 2 parents, still get lonely too. It helps me to see that his lonliness won’t be just a result of his circumstances or any fault of mine, just something that happens to us all. Monica I am thankful over and over that you share your life with us because you are so helpful and ispiring!

    1. Aw, thank you Erin! I am sure your support and love will make all the difference to your son. Love hearing from you and appreciate your comment. Aloha-

  4. Monica Carter says:

    This post is exactly what is happening to my oldest son, as he starts his senior year at an exclusive Private Catholic Jesuit High School. You would never look at him and imagine he would be ignored/excluded. He is humble, handsome, athletic, has a fantastic girlfriend and not socially awkward or uncomfortable at all. It is excruciating watching him go through another year of this. I pray college is better than high school. It literally makes me sick to my stomach.

    1. I’m so sorry Monica. I do believe college will be different. Kids mature and it’s a completely different world. My son is so eager to go to college and confident that he’ll meet like-minded young men there as well. I’m praying for that!! Hang in there, Momma! 🙂 Aloha-

      1. Monica Carter says:

        Thanks! That’s exactly what I’m praying for. It will be refreshing when this season is over!
        Hugs to you as your J begins his college adventure!!!!

  5. Hi Moni thank you for sharing all these interesting and helpful articles . I am from Mexico and even though we speak a different language we do feel the same emotions .This theme about looking at them lonely and not making friends is an issue.Sometimes it is not as simple as it sounds to get along with other children .
    Strategies for this would be incredible

  6. Right on time….thank you<3

  7. That’s a problem my youngest son has. He is rather social and an extrovert, so having the noise of acquaintances and friends is important to him. We try to work around it by putting him in after school camps since they don’t require you actually go to the school. We put him in Spring Break camps, after-school recreation programs, sports programs where my husband coaches and I am team mom that organizes team building parties. Even when he was in school, his playtime with friends was only during the 20 min of recess. Most of his friendships were built on after school was done.

    1. Nita–Thank you for the comment, those are such great ideas. (They also take some effort on the part of the parent, haha, but I need to work on more of those things for my boys!) Way to be intentional! Much aloha-have a great weekend! 🙂