Anger in parenting is a topic that I love/hate to talk about.
I love it because I believe with all of my heart that talking about this sort of thing is important. As moms, we need each other. We need to know we’re not alone We need support, and we desperately need encouragement.
I hate it because it brings up a part of my parenting life that I’m ashamed of. It’s uncomfortable to talk about these things.
You see, I never thought of myself as an angry person before. I have always been a cheerful, glass-half-full type. I roll with things pretty well.
But nothing will reveal your hidden character flaws like having kids, right?
By the time my third son was born, I was confronted with a side of myself that I did not like: Anger. You see at that point I was exhausted. Lonely. Frustrated. overwhelmed. And exhausted. (wait, did I mention exhausted?) It’s true, my husband was working crazy long shifts as part of his medical residency program, and I was trying to do most of the parenting on my own. Granted, I very likely would have struggled no matter what his hours were, (I’m not blaming his schedule) but I was definitely pushed to my limit and lacking resources. (We had moved to Hawaii for the residency program, far from family and all of my familiar support.)
Anger would come up out of the blue sometimes. Or it would fester and then boil over. I was so disappointed with myself, and I did everything I could to get rid of it. I read books, and sought out resources, but nothing quite “hit the spot” to offer me the practical help I was searching for.
One of the hardest things for me was how alone I felt in my anger. I convinced myself that I was unique in this…that there was something wrong with me.
I know now how wrong I was. Anger in parenting is a very common problem. In fact, most women I talk to have struggled (and like me — shocked themselves with) this thing of anger in parenting. And most women feel like they’re the only one.
Well, years have gone by and thankfully things did get better as I worked hard and prayed even harder. My boys are older now, and I have a lot more support and breathing room. I’ve figured out some of my personal anger triggers, and I have become wiser in dealing with them. I wrote a post about this subject a couple of years ago that has swept the internet many times, and the comments I have received further confirm that I am not alone. 🙂
Two of my dear friends began a Facebook group called NO MORE ANGRY MOB (associated with the MOB (Mother of Boys) Society.) Wendy Speake and Amber Lia pour out such encouragement and inspiration through that Facebook group, that in a short time it grew to over 11,000 women strong. I have thought so many times how BLESSED I would have been if that were available ten years ago.
And even better…
Amber and Wendy got together, and wrote the book that I have wished for…
And it’s available starting TODAY!
^^ Click on graphic if you want to go straight to book page to purchase. ^^
Can I just say THEY NAILED IT!
First of all, I love how Triggers is laid out. It is divided into two sections:
The first is focused on EXTERNAL TRIGGERS. These are specific categories of kids’ behavior or any other outside force that might trigger our anger as parents. This includes everything from sibling rivalry, to disobedience, to video game addiction, ADHD, and much more.
The second section looks at INTERNAL TRIGGERS. These are the things inside of us as parents that can also trigger our anger. Things like exhaustion, running late, going it alone, and more. (Even challenging relationships with in-laws).
The chapters are short, but filled with the compassionate support of a dear friend sitting across the table. As Amber and Wendy share their heart, you know that you are not being judged, and you are definitely not alone. Transparent and compassionate, these two walk with you through each “trigger” and then offer practical help, Scripture, and a prayer.
You can use this book by topic–turning to whatever TRIGGER you might be facing that day.
Or you can use this book as a daily read–one for every day of the month! I love reading it daily because it equips you for whenever those triggers might show up. (I call this being “proactive against mommy anger”.)
I encourage you to buy this book today. And don’t just buy one — buy a few for your friends! I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t appreciate and benefit from Triggers.
A few final testimonials…
“I’m an author and a speaker. I write blogs and books on parenting topics, and I know how to give good advice. I’m also a mom of 10 children, and there have been many times I’ve thought, “I’m so glad my audience didn’t just see me/hear that!” There are times my patience impresses even myself, but there are also times when my voice raises, my emotions flair, and I’m too loud, too firm, too out of control. I hurt my children. I also poorly reflect my Heavenly Father. Triggers is a book for every mom, but especially for me. The book looks beyond the outward displays to the heart of the matter. I was inspired and encouraged by this book! It’s a must-read for every mom who struggles with anger…which means all of us!”
— TRICIA GOYER, USA Today best-selling author of 50 books, including Balanced: Finding Center as A Work-at-Home Mom
“Triggers reminded me that children misbehave—but I don’t have to. It’s my choice in how I respond as I give myself to the guidance of the Holy Spirit.”
— SHONDA K., Washington
“Had you told me years ago that one of my biggest struggles as a mom would be dealing with anger, I would never have believed you. This book first helped me come to the realization that I have triggers for that anger. More importantly, I have been encouraged and challenged by the practical, biblical tools given.
— JANA H., Hungary
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NEW NEWS! August 16th, 2016 After much demand, a STUDY GUIDE is now available to go with the TRIGGERS book!
This will be so good! Hope you’ll check it out HERE! 🙂
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