In my recent post talking about the Anger-Lecture Cycle, I mentioned that one of the worst moments in parenting is being confronted with a behavior that absolutely warrants a consequence, yet being completely stumped as to what the consequence should be. In that moment, mad as heck, my mind often freezes. I see red. Smoke begins to billow out of my nostrils (not really, but maybe really.) I wish I could think on my feet, but I simply cannot. Sadly, this is a total set-up for mom to lose her cool. Being caught off guard can easily lead us to parent REACTIVELY…which way too often is in ANGER.
Have you been there? Does it happen too often?
That is a terribly frustrating feeling, but today I want to talk about how we can actually AVOID that entire scenario.
And that, my friends, is why today’s Vlog is so important!
I hope you find this short video helpful!
I have been really focused on using these pre-set consequences lately, and the truth is, giving swift consequences has been super hard for me! I’m not sure who dislikes consequences more, my boys, or me! As moms, we don’t like seeing our kids suffer, yet they need to learn from their mistakes. (What they DON’T NEED is an angry mom!) I have been watching my boys learn great lessons, and I have walked away without a hint of guilt or shame. (ahhhh.)
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