OK…Here it is. My first video! 🙂 (Introduction, found here.)
A few things:
1. It’s a little long. (8 minutes. My goal will be 3-5 minutes for future videos.) I know people have short attention spans, and I can only say “um,” so many times! This time however, I felt the need to do a little introduction for folks who come across the video through youtube searches etc.
2. I was nervous. (I still am!) By the end I began to feel more relaxed and I’m pretty sure that I’ll get more comfortable as I do more of these!
3. This is an intro. If you want specifics, they will come. I wanted to cast a vision with this one, and hope that it might resonate with a few of you so that I might move into specifics as I go.
4. I’m including a few notes below. More notes related to this topic. Because A: I forgot to say some of the things that I meant to say (see #2, above,) and B: I said a few things that I hadn’t planned to say. (see #2, above. ;)) (“This will get easier, this will get easier. this will get easier…”)
5. A little noise: Towards the end of the clip you’ll hear kids acting up and even one familiar “MOM!” coming from the house. It just wouldn’t be my life without it. Thanks for understanding.
NOTES related to Parenting with Vision.
**As parents, you have the greatest influence over the direction of your children’s lives. <tweet this!> You are their greatest role model, and how you parent matters. How you live your own life also matters. I encourage you to take this responsibility seriously!
**We are all busy, but parenting well requires time and focus. Take the time to consider the things that matter to you about how your kids will grow up. Just hoping that they’ll turn out ok is NOT enough. There is no job, hobby, or pursuit in your life that could be more meaningful than the time and effort you put into the children that you’ve been entrusted with!
**Taking even a small amount of time to think about, and write some notes about what is REALLY IMPORTANT to you as parents can be the beginning of a game plan! Your kids will never be perfect, but what are the things that you will focus on? And then, what steps can you take in that direction? Will you practice it in the home? Talk about it? Find positive role models to come alongside them, etc. Build some sort of plan into your life so that you can walk out what you most value!
**From our life: Before we ever had children, my husband and I had agreed on a few specific things:
—I would stay home to raise our children, if at all possible.
—We would be very careful about the influences in our kids’ lives: The friends that they would spend time with. The shows that they would watch. As long as they were in our care we would be very intentional about guiding and directing the things that would influence their lives.
–We would always keep our marriage our top priority, and we would be intentional about dating, protecting our time together and nurturing our marriage.
***From our life: As parents, we have made decisions specific to each of our kids in various seasons of their lives.
**Observing other people and other families is a huge tool you can use as you make choices about raising your kids. Ask questions! Read books! Study other people and then plan out how you can model what they are doing!
**Giving kids responsibilities in their younger years will pay off! The idea that they are part of the family unit, and everyone needs to pitch in will help to instill in kids the values of hard work and productivity. Be consistent in your expectations, and be excited and proud of them for their work. This will pay off dividends in the years to come!
**Our job as parents is not to be our kids’ best friend. Our job is to raise them up to be great human beings. Sometimes they will not like your decisions, and that is ok. They will respect you if you are reasonable, and consistent.
**Communicating with your children is key. I have always made communication a big priority with my boys, and I think that has been a mutual blessing. They need to feel heard and understood, and they need to know that they CAN come to me if they need anything. I also believe it is important to share my husband and my life with my kids. I encourage them to ask my husband about work, and I share about things that interest me. I want them to be interested in other people, and why not start at home!? I also believe it is important to ask forgiveness if you’ve been wrong. Modeling humility and owning our own mistakes is a great example to our kids.
**Prayer. I could never ever ever parent these four boys without talking to God every single day about it. I can’t imagine parenting without prayer.
I was thinking about doing ONE MORE PARENTING VIDEO next week. Either covering something practical–Like our CHORE SYSTEM, or more on our parenting philosophy. PLEASE let me know if there is something specific you’d like to hear!
I could also move on to one of my other topics, and just surprise you!
I’ll be waiting to hear your vote! 🙂 And any other comments, questions, or something from your experience!
ALOHA, and thank you so much for giving me a chance. I hope to improve in both my speaking and writing skills over time!!